Say goodbye

Further to the feature on separation anxiety, 'Don't go' (21 February), to enable a child to settle in without tears could easily take a week of visits to the day nursery by the child's parents. The nursery has to advise parents to build this time in before they are due to return to paid employment and might have to waive fees for this settling-in period. Before 'parents pop out of the room' they must tell their child they are leaving, not just hope the child won't notice. Otherwise, the child will feel they can't trust the parents not to leave...