WORK PLACE BULLIES

WORK PLACE BULLIES

by: carol25 - 07-07-06 15:43

I worked in a private day nursery for almost 5 years, but left after a collegue was falsely accused of 9 counts of misconduct, and subsequently investigated,facing the prospect of being disqualified with working with children. She was a senior member of staff and after trying to address some professional difficulties with a junior member of staff,these difficulties our manager refused to address,had been going on for months.The junior member of staff then made allegations, all of which were proven to be unfounded! After almost ruining someones career,and that person being practically forced to leave what do you suppose happened to the junior member of staff? Absolutely nothing!

by: newmanager

ive experienced much bullying from a previous job. I was working as a manager (i was 23 at the time) and i felt i done everything i could for the staff and nursery. 1 member of staff hated me though - she was alot older than me and a nursery nurse. I once had her an inch from my face shouting at me over nothing. I had no suppourt from the owner who just watched from the doorway and she would not let me go ahead with discliplinary as she was a sap when it come to dealing with challenging behaviour from adults!.

i started to keep a diary of everything she said and done and showed it to the owner who done nothing.

also there was many safety issues in the nursery ( fire exits blocked etc) and she the owner done nothing.

wanting to protect myself i made a form so that when i made a request for something essential or any hazards to be rectified she had to sign it so that if ofsted came i had evidence i had asked for such things but they never appeared. This proved valuable when the nursery was inspected (it was nearly closed down!)and i protected my name. If i had not made those forms my name would have been mud with ofsted!.

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 01-08-06 21:05

by: Tess

Thanks for the replies- It's shows that these bullies are getting away with it in both the private and public sector. My situation continues but I can not go into detail as it is now in the hands of my solicitor. I do feel that there should be a support group to help and protect us from these bullies.
I am seriously thinking of trying to start one myself. Durig this whole nightmare although my family have all been wonderful, i think it would have helped to have been able to talk to someone who really knew how it felt.
What do people think ?

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 03-08-06 14:28

by: sexy gal

hi tess sorry to hear about wat happened to you.iv experienced the same and iv left the place but its still going on ,its like they are there to hunt thier next victims and tear them apart but theres no support as theres no manager coz every manager that did come is driven away by these fools,my friend was driven away too.
there was a time when my friend was away for the week end and she forgot to wash her uniform so she wore a balck t-shirt instead when she got to work a member of staff was so quick to ask her where her uniform was,but the thing is that person had a big group of friends and her friends wouid come in wearing bright coloured tops she never said anything to them which is why i describe that nursery as a hell hole poor kids.

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 04-08-06 12:16

by: saralou11

Hi, I have been reading the last few messages posted in this topic and i am too in a situation that has knocked back my confidence and im scared to find another job without any hassle. i am keyworker of 2-3's and every day have to deal with piles of work to take home, i am worried that this is what i will find at every nursery, i have only been working for a year at this nursery coming straight from college. i feel i am always making mistakes and forgetting things and they make sure the whole nursery is aware of my mistakes making me feel small. every night i come home to do hours of work i.e. statements. i feel all i can do now is hand my notice in.

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 17-08-06 20:58

by: Tess

Thanks for the replies,
SexyGal well done for getting out, I hope you will be happy in your new job.
Saralou, it sounds like a dreadful situation for you to be in. If possible you should get out of there asap!
You could always try an Agency for a while until you find a more suitable permanent post. I Fully understand how these people can knock your confidence, but just keep telling yourself they are the problem not you. I feel so upset for you, especially as you have only been working in childcare/education for a year. There are some very unpleasant people out there but just as is the case with playground Bullies, workplace bullies are usually serverly lacking in competance or natural skill and they try to deflect their inadequacy by bullying other more competent staff. Another reason for bullying is these people are often extremly unhappy in their personal lifes. I am not excusing them infact I feel bullying in any form is deplorable. However do try to remain strong and find yourself a more suitable posistion. You are just starting out and have a lot to offer, so please don't give in to these horrid people. As for the workload we have all at times needed to take work home but if you are having to do it every night it points to bad management and organisational skills, these often go hand in hand with low staff morale and bullying.

So Please Please don't let them win, find yourself another job and be happy!

Feel free to contact me through this site if you need any support or if you just want to let off steam.
Tess

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 30-09-06 20:20

by: kaz117

Bullying happens in schools as well amongst staff. We have 1 member of staff who constantly criticises another member of staff, putting her down, making fun of her, pointing out any mistakes she makes even down to pointing out if she pronounces any of the children's names wrongly. She causes more trouble by very sneakily reporting all her mistakes, errors absolutely everything to the line mananger and then is really charming to her face. But we are all very fed up with her and have always refused to go along with her spitefulness and are pointing out to our line manger all the trouble she is causing and making our line manager aware of what she is doing and saying. We are all qualified members of staff and bullying has no place in any workplace especially when you are involved in the care and education of children.

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 06-10-06 22:55

by: Tess

Well Done Kaz
If these Bullies are not confronted or supported they will just carry on.
It may be an idea to keep notes of dates, times, witnesses and what happened.
These are vital if there is ever an official investigation ! A quiet word and some proof may be all you manager needs to convince the Bully her actions won't be tolerated.
Good Luck & Keep us posted.
Tess

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 07-11-06 16:35

by: colum

I worked with a bully for 2 yrs in a setting in Northern Ireland and it was a nite-mare. She was not only horrible to me but to the kids in the setting. I looked for addition support from the settings committee but it never came.This woman was a nite-mare,her family had loyalist terrorist connections so i had no support at all.All of a sudden one day she decided she was leaving,good riddence i thought!

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 22-11-06 20:38

by: Tess

Sounds like you will all be a lot happier without her.

WORK PLACE BULLIES - 22-11-06 23:39

by: space

I think Ive seen this message before