Physical Affection

Physical Affection

by: Saffron - 28-09-04 20:25

Hi, I am working in a private day nursery in Ireland with six ten-month-olds to two year olds to one adult. The owner has told us that we are not allowed to pick up the children or have them on our laps as this means that we are sitting down and not doing our jobs properly. Also because it shows favouritism. I find this really difficult as when I sit beside them on the floor they crawl onto my lap and I have to get up and move away unless I am seen with one of them on my lap. Also when they hurt themselves or cry it is hard not to comfort them. I find this really upsetting as I read in books that children need physical closeness, any thoughts?

by: fuzzyduck

birth to threes emphasises the importance of closeness and stable relationships with familuar adults. it really upsets me when managers are like that, a nursery i worked at was the same but how would you feel if all you wanted was a hug and the person you went to turned you away.

Physical Affection - 30-09-04 12:16

by: spannahxxx

I've heard that some nurseies are like this, is this due to the fact that they are worried about abuse cases being bought on their companies? I can't think that the parents are happy to leave thier children in a place, espcially so young, where this kind of affection is not given. Do they realise the extent of your managers boundaries?

Physical Affection - 19-10-04 16:02

by: Busybee123

Hi there...I can sympathise with you.....we have quite a few strange ways of doing things here in Ireland ... I work in a Primary school with Juniors and I find there is no harm in letting one or two little ones who are very shy, 'prone to always feel sick'...those that cry easily etc... sit on my lap. I don't think it shows favouritism and other kids don't tend to view it that way. Some kids are more clingy and need more reassuring/hugs/etc...and other kids are naturally confident and outgoing and just don't even seem to notice it really. Good luck - it's a tough world out there....we all need all the support we can get.

Physical Affection - 19-10-04 22:40

by: Gibbo

I bet that is really hard children that young, well any age really need a cuddle. When they are upset and need comforting and you are doing your job if youve got the children on your knee cos you are working with the children making the children happy and that is your job. I think you should talk to the manager and explain how you feel and what makes the children happy.